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The Power of Perseverance: How These Great People Overcame Adversity to Achieve Success

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We all face challenges in life, but what sets great people apart is their ability to push through adversity and come out stronger. In this post, we’ll explore the inspiring stories of Alexander the Great, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Nelson Mandela, and sports legends like Michael Jordan and Drew Brees, who overcame obstacles and achieved greatness.

Alexander the Great

Alexander the Great was a Greek king and military commander who conquered much of the known world in the 4th century BC. Despite the challenges he faced, Alexander remained a fearless and determined leader who was able to inspire his troops and overcome seemingly insurmountable obstacles. Some of the challenges he faced include:

  • His father was assassinated when he was 20 years old.
  • His army had to endure extreme temperatures, dangerous wildlife, and difficult terrain as they made their way across vast distances.
  • His conquests took him through harsh and unforgiving environments, including deserts, mountains, and swamps.

Franklin D. Roosevelt

Franklin D. Roosevelt was the 32nd President of the United States and is widely regarded as one of the greatest American presidents in history. He led the United States through some of its greatest challenges, including the Great Depression and World War II. Throughout his presidency he launched Social Security which was a safety net for older folks, a work program that put millions of people back to work and the FDIC which helped protect people from bank failures. Despite his achievements, Roosevelt faced significant challenges throughout his life, including:

  • Contracting polio at the age of 39, which left him paralyzed from the waist down.
  • Facing skepticism from many Americans who believed he couldn’t effectively lead the country from a wheelchair.

Nelson Mandela

Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in prison as a political prisoner fighting against apartheid in South Africa. He endured brutal imprisonment and isolation, confined to a tiny cell and forced to do hard labor in the blazing sun. Raised in a regime that removed black people from their homes in mixed-race neighborhoods and resettled them in townships on the outskirts of cities, he fought tirelessly to end apartheid and bring about reconciliation and unity in South Africa. 

Sports Legends

There are tireless examples of people in sports who overcame adversity. Michael Jordan didn’t make his high school team and went on to lead the Bulls to six rings and lead the conversation as the greatest of all time. Drew Brees tore his shoulder in San Diego and it was thought he’d never play football again. He went on to win a Super Bowl and was one of the greatest quarterbacks of this generation. Muhammad Ali lost 3.5 years of boxing because he refused to fight in Vietnam. Mario Lemieux came back and led his team to the Stanley Cup after being diagnosed with Hodgkin’s lymphoma.

No matter what obstacles you’re facing, remember that you have the power to overcome them. Take inspiration from these great people and never give up on your dreams.

Book Review – The Rise and Fall of the Third Reich by Willam Shirer

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The Rise and Fall of the Third Reich is a comprehensive and engrossing historical account of the Nazi regime in Germany. Written in 1960, just 15 years post war, by William Shirer, a journalist who covered Germany during the time period. The book offers a firsthand perspective on the events that led up to World War II and the fall of the Nazi Party. It’s intense, long and not for the faint of heart. It’s also a necessary read for anyone that wants a detailed understanding of how a man, hitler, his party, the Nazi Party and an ideology, racial purity led the world into its deadliest war, ever (est 50+ million).

This book is not for the faint of heart. It’s a very long deep dive that is meticulous in it’s research and attention to detail. Shirer draws upon a wide range of sources, including primary documents, interviews, and published works, to provide a well-rounded view of the events of the time. I think what the book does a great job at illustrating is what happened to humanity during this time period.

The book does a great job at answering the following questions:

  • How did Hitler rise to power?
    • Shirer discusses the various factors that contributed to Hitler’s rise to power, including the economic and political instability in Germany following World War I, the propaganda and messaging used by the Nazi Party, and the weaknesses and divisions within the German government.
  • What was the Nazi Party’s ideology and how did it appeal to the German people?
    • The book delves into the ideology of the Nazi Party, including their belief in racial purity and the idea of the “Aryan master race,” and how these ideas were used to justify their actions and appeal to the German people.
  • How did the Nazi Party gain control of the government and implement their policies?
    • Shirer discusses the various tactics used by the Nazi Party to gain control of the government, including the use of violence and intimidation, and the ways in which they were able to manipulate the legal system and suppress opposition. He also covers the implementation of their policies, including their persecution of minority groups and the expansion of their territory through military conquest.
  • What was the role of other key figures in the Nazi Party, such as Joseph Goebbels and Heinrich Himmler?
    • The book covers the roles and responsibilities of other key figures in the Nazi Party, including Goebbels and Himmler, and their contributions to the party’s policies and actions.
  • How did the Nazi regime eventually fall and what were the consequences of their actions?
    • Shirer also covers the events leading up to the fall of the Nazi regime, including the Allied victory in World War II and the subsequent trials of top Nazi officials, as well as the long-term consequences of their actions, including the loss of life and the devastation caused by the war.

It details the various atrocities committed by the Nazi regime against the peoples of Europe during World War II. These include the Holocaust, in which millions of Jews, Romani, homosexuals, and others deemed undesirable by the Nazis were systematically murdered in concentration camps; the invasion and occupation of various European countries, including Poland, France, and the Soviet Union, which resulted in widespread destruction and the deaths of millions of civilians; and the forced conscription of millions of people into the German military or into forced labor camps.

There are several lessons that a person in 2022 could learn from reading The Rise and Fall of the Third Reich by William Shirer. Some potential examples include:

  • The dangers of authoritarianism and the importance of maintaining a healthy democracy
    • The rise of the Nazi Party and their eventual takeover of the German government serves as a cautionary tale about the dangers of allowing an authoritarian regime to gain power. The book illustrates the ways in which the Nazis were able to manipulate and control the population through propaganda and fear, and the consequences of this for the country and the world as a whole.
  • The importance of speaking out against injustice
    • The book also highlights the bravery of those who resisted the Nazi regime and spoke out against their actions, even at great personal risk. This serves as a reminder of the importance of speaking out against injustice and the power of individual action to make a difference.
  • The dangers of extremism and the importance of promoting tolerance and understanding
    • The Nazi ideology of racial purity and the atrocities committed against those deemed undesirable serve as a reminder of the dangers of extremist thinking and the importance of promoting tolerance and understanding between different groups of people.

35 things you should have at home and ready to independently survive a catastrophic event.

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1. First aid kit

2. Flashlights

3. Batteries

4. Candles and matches

5. Cell phone and charger

6. Extra cash

7. Non-perishable food

8. Water purification tablets

9. Extra clothing and blankets

10. Fire extinguisher

11. Whistle

12. Portable radio

13. Emergency tools such as a wrench or pliers

14. Maps of the local area

15. Copies of important documents

16. Extra eyeglasses and/or contact lenses

17. Prescription medications

18. A working fire alarm

19. A list of emergency contact numbers

20. Sanitation supplies

21. Emergency shelter

22. A sturdy garbage can

23. A generator

24. A shovel

25. A multi-tool

26. A car emergency kit

27. Wood for a fireplace

28. Frozen proteins

29. Guns and Ammunition

30. An escape plan

31. Military Rations

32. A meeting point for your family if you’re ever separated and this happens

These Final 3 are ideal state if you have the financial means or network!

33. Have a coop farm you can escape to

34. Have a helicopter based close escape plan followed by a more long distance air plane plan

35. Have one of these locations in multiple continents

Here 4 effective negotiating tactics when buying a new or used car 

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  1. Research the car’s market value: Research the market value of the car online to get a better understanding of what a fair price for the car may be. Knowing the car’s market value can also help you negotiate a better deal.
    • Information asymmetry – Don’t let the dealer have more information.
  2. Have your financing pre-arranged: Having your financing pre-arranged before you go to the dealership can give you more leverage in the negotiation process.
    • Take away a strategic advantage – A dealers financing department is one of their primary profit centers
  3. Don’t be afraid to walk away: Don’t be afraid to walk away from a deal if the dealership is not willing to meet your expectations. It can be a powerful negotiating tactic.
    • The take away – A car in the lot is a liability, your cash is an asset
  4. Negotiate the price, not the payment: Negotiate the price of the car, not the monthly payment. This will help you get the best deal.
    • The end number is all that matters

7 Statistics That I’m Concerned With Related To Boys

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One in five men as of 2019 didn’t have a single close friend compared to 1 in 10 women in UK

3 times as many men have a public health funeral as women (buried alone with no one there)

Men are only 40% of the college enrollees in 2021

Men were 78% of the pandemic related college dropout/

28% of the men under 30 are reporting having no sex compared to 18% of women

Male testosterone levels have been dropping over the last multiple decades according to multiple medical journals with causes being unknown 

Male economic fatigue has creeped into our marriage rates – The Hamilton Project at the Brookings Institution found that only half of the poorest men in America are married today, compared with 86 percent in 1970

Self Actualization Through Visualization and Action

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According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, self-actualization represents the highest-order motivations.  Those which drive us to realize our true potential and achieve our “ideal self.”  Self Actualization requires vision.  The vision requires repeated action to become a reality.  Through the combination of vision and action, there are endless possibilities.  

If you are looking to make something great of yourself, you need to set priorities and goals which will set you up for a better and bigger future.  Alexander the Great was the first person called The Great because he envisioned a unified Greece and he did it.  He was the first to actively pursue a unified world.  What’s your unified world vision?

Life is exactly what you make out of it.  You can write your own story.  We all are.  The question is are you willing to go and make it.   Your potential is limitless.  It’s action that takes effort.  

If you want your goals and dreams to come to life, you must first know what your goals are, write them down and ask friends and family to help hold you accountable.  Setting goals for the long term and short term is going to be one thing that makes your life better and easier because you are going to have something to strive for and known targets you are aiming at.

Never give up and pursue goals worth pursuing. They are what get you out of bed in the morning.  Be prepared to work hard at your goals, nothing worth doing is ever achieved easily.  

Genghis Khan once conquered Mongolia, China, Russia, Korea and Syria. He was in control.  You need to recognize that you are the one that is in control of your life.  When there is something that you really want to have, you should pursue it with ferocity.  Nothing is scarier than a person motivated to do something with a single pursuited purpose.

I recommend the exercise of illustrating what you want and then creating the exact plan that needs to be executed to get there.  Mahatma Gandhi wanted India to be independent from the oppression of their British colonialists.  He understood in order to create a movement, he’d need to do so through unorthodox means that created sympathy to their struggle.  By using non-violent means of protest and flexing the new medium of television, he could get the attention necessary to get the world behind his movement.  He was in control and had a mapped out plan.   You should always know that you are going to be in control of a situation.  When you are not happy with something that you are doing you should go out there and make your life just how you want it to be. 

Do not be afraid of your goals, of making them bigger and doing what you want to do in life.  Make goals that are exciting, get you eager to take action and then go do the damn thing!. There is nothing out there that should stop.  

From there, your attitude is your latitude.  Stay positive, work through the hardships, create a plan and stick to it until you need to pivot.  Visualize, take action and follow through.  The rest will handle itself.

Keys to Coping:  7 Technique to help with Stress Management

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        Tell me if this has happened to you? You’re sitting with your hands tightly gripped to the steering wheel, your stress level rising by the second.  You have exactly five minutes before you have to get to daycare, and there’s an accident creating traffic.  After you pick up your child (who may or may not have kept you up all night), you’ll have to go to the supermarket, rush home for dinner, bathe baby, put him or her to bed and then you have the rest of your life you have to manage!

          Life can be highly stressful.  The good news is that there are techniques you can use in order to bring your stress level under control.  Following is 6 ways to avoid both situational and general life stress:

  1. Rehearsing. 
    • Let’s say you are preparing for a job interview.  You can role play, with your spouse, roommate or friend playing the part of the interviewer and you as the interviewee.  In this way, you can practice your answers to likely questions.  Knowing what to expect in advance can help you to control your stress level in the actual moment.
  2. Empathetic Framing:
    • Let’s suppose you have had a disagreement with your co-worker.  You’re worried that you will never be able to enjoy camaraderie with your co-worker again.  Now, you’re freaked out that you’ve burned a bridge.  You’ll be much better off if you see the disagreement as a challenge you must simply work your way through.  Look at the debate as a discussion between two intelligent people.  Try your best to see the other person’s perspective.  In this way, you’ll be engaging in problem-solving rather than complaining, and your stress may be reduced because of it. 
  3. Anger Management: 
    • It is often not a particular situation, but your reaction to it, that causes your stress level to climb.  I remember Rage Against the Machine once claimed, “Anger is a gift”. I must disagree! Don’t let your anger control you. You have a choice to be angry or not, choose not. Anger is a choice. Your reaction to circumstance is a choice. Our ability to navigate this is what separates us from animals. Choose the way of solution vs anger and your stress will fall away like pounds after an Insanity workout!
  4. Try your best to curtail negative thinking:
    • Whenever a negative thought comes to mind, think the exact opposite positive version of that thought and stick with it.  Or if all your thinking is negative, just try to stop thinking. I’ll literally tell myself, stop thinking, stop thinking.  The idea here is to put an end to negative thinking—to, in effect, put it on the shelf so that you don’t have to worry about it.  You’ll be surprised how relaxed you feel, once you stop engaging in negative thinking. 
  5. Remember you are a 1 of 1:
    • Self-esteem matters.  Being hard on yourself can produce a great deal of stress.  Once you recognize that you are a person worthy of love, you will be better able to cope with the stressors that come your way. 
  6. Exercise:
    • It’s a proven fact that individuals who exercise have better outlooks on life. Go watch Legally Blonde if you need a reminder!
  7. Set and accomplish goals for yourself.  
    1. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to knit.  Now is your golden opportunity.  Or maybe you’d like to run a marathon by the end of the year (this is one I did and changed my life).  The important thing is to set goals, to commit to them and go out and achieve them.  Once you reach your goal, you will likely feel on top of the world.  As you make progress toward your goal, you could find your stress level subsiding.    

        Stress relief is an on-going process.  You can’t expect to reduce your stress-level permanently in one day.  But, by taking the steps listed above, you might find yourself better able to deal with stress on a daily basis.  Remember that you may not be in complete control of what happens to you on any given day, but you can control your reaction to it.  By focusing on the positive, putting an end to negative thinking, and setting goals for yourself, you should find your stress level declining.  With less stress to worry about, you’ll find that life is more enjoyable.  Even that daily commute to the day care center might become more tolerable.  

You are what you dream yourself to be (A Poem)

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You are what you dream yourself to be

Your actions push you through what you can’t see

it’s faith that gets impacted when your vision gets distracted when you forget it’s your responsibility

You are the direct result of your actions

It’s because of you that everything happens

If it is up to be, it is up to me, the work makes it what you imagine

You are what you believe you’ll become

It’s a rhythm that beats like a drum

Your self talk is strong, it moves you along, it’s from where your belief willl come from

You are what you dream yourself to be

It’s your job to go out and achieve

Be the change agent you want to see be and build the future we all want to see

How To Talk To Anyone, Anywhere, In 10 Steps

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The art of conversation is timeless. Humans are social creatures and in order to be successful, you are going to need to navigate humanity. Here are 10 tips to help you talk to anyone.

  1. Make a good first impression with eye contact and a smile
    • People often only remember the first and last thing about you. Smiling is a sign of confidence, kindness and empathy. When you look someone in the eyes, it’s a display of trust and attention.
  2. Mirroring – Replicating certain words and motions of the person you’re speaking with. Mirroring lets the other side know you’re paying attention to what they’re saying and treating their views with the close consideration they believe they deserve.
    • Mirroring could also be repeating key words used by the person you are speaking with. Don’t overuse this!
      • An example of this could be, “I’m a huge fan of The Cowboys, but I’m very disappointed in the draft.” You could respond, “The Cowboys Draft?” Then the person will dig in with more details.
  3. Be Complimentary – People like to feel good about themselves. If you pay someone a compliment (In a non-creepy way!), it’s going to make them feel good about themselves because of something you just said, you’ll immediately have a friend!
  4. Use We and Us in your conversation. It immediately makes people feel like they’re in it with you. This creates a sense of community.
  5. Ask the person you are speaking with, how they’re connected to whatever event you are at and figure out who the two of you have in common.
    • If you are at a party, an easy question is, “How are you connected to everyone here?”
    • If you are at a work event, “What do you do at the company? Do you know…?”
    • If you are at a kids sporting event, “Which kid is yours?!”
  6. When you meet someone for the first time, be excited and treat them as if you are already friends. That’s going to make easing into conversation easier. Be happy to be with them.
  7. When you are asked the inevitable question of where are you from and what do you do. Answer in a long form, not a short.
    • An example of this could be, “Where are you from?” “I’m from a town in Northeast Indiana, are you familiar with Indiana?” OR “I build jet engines for Boeing, but not the ones you heard about in the news!”
  8. Be Interested
    • The best way to be interesting, is to be interested! Ask the person follow up questions, play dumb about a subject if you have to. People like to talk about things they’re interested in, ask questions.
  9. Practice pauses
    • In conversation, you don’t need to respond immediately. Sometimes allowing a pause gives the person your speaking with more time to put their thoughts together. Just don’t let it be uncomfortably long!
  10. If you are feeling bold, bust out a few ice breakers!
    • What’s the single best item you’ve bought in the last year?
    • If you could only keep 3 apps on your phone, what 3 apps would you keep?
    • Who is your favorite fictional character? Who is your favorite historical figure?

A Workout Routine You Can Always Fall Back Into

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Fitness is a lifestyle.  All you need to do is give 1 of your 24 hours a day to your health.  There is no excuse, there is only health.  Without health, you will die.  Give this hour to yourself and live a better, happier life.

Throughout life, you should have different physical goals and try to accomplish things you’ve never tried.  Train for a marathon (I’ll have a post later about my 3 month 5K to Marathon training), go rock climbing, do a martial art or compete in sports.  Compete in team sports and compete in one on one sports.  It keeps you sharp and again, happy.

I’ve personally found that between times that I’m training for a specific goal, I easily fall into training lulls.  I’ll go to the gym without a purpose or plan.  That’s when workouts become cumbersome, ineffective and sometimes, pointless.  What I’ve found however, is that trying to get stronger has never served me wrong.  Below is a routine that I once spent a year doing and have found that is an incredibly easy routine to do for short or long term periods between training for goals and also, show results.

The routine is anchored in Bench Press, Barbell Squat and Dead Lift.  There are also days for your ancillary muscles, shoulder and arms.  If you are in your 20s, you should be working out 5 days a week.  I’m 42 and maintaining a 5 day a week gym schedule 80% of the time.  You could get away with doing just 3 days a week and I’d recommend simply doing Chest, Back and Legs if so.  I’d also ask you to do 2 days of cardio. My compromise when necessary is 4 days.  

It’s important to maintain your physical health.  If you do not, you are more likely to die of diseases that can be avoided.  Maintaining good physical health is a powerful kicker for your mental health as well.  Every time you exercise, endorphins are released.  An active lifestyle is guaranteed to make you happier.

Each workout below is going to take about 40 minutes if performed properly.  Properly means taking 2 minutes between reps, lifting with proper form and as heavy as you can to get up to 5 reps.  That leaves 20 minutes for cardio at the end.  Here’s how I split up my cardio days personally.  

  1. Walk Backwards on the treadmill – great for knee health and explosiveness.  Start slow (3 MPH) and move up 0.1 or 0.2 MPH per week until you max out.
  2. Run and keep your forefoot form.  Start slow (4 MPH) Move up 0.1 or 0.2  MPH per week until you max out.
  3. Stairs – Run up and down stairs for 20 minutes, bonus if your gym has stairs set up for you to run up and down!
  4. Set a treadmill for it’s max incline (most likely around 15%).  Start slow (3 MPH) Increase by 0.1 or 0.2 MPH per week until you max out
  5. Sprints – Sprint for 1 minute, as fast as you can, recover walk or jog for 1 minute.  Do this until you can go 20 minutes, then increase your sprint speed by 0.1 or 0.2 MPH until you max out. I like starting at 5 MPH for rest and 7 MPH for sprint, then increase until you max out.

Below is the 5 Day routine you can always fall back on.  However, before we go into the routine, I have a few guiding principles.  

  1. If you aren’t doing full movements you are cheating.  You will have to lower the weight at first, but you are going to get better and fuller workouts.
    1. Squat Ass to Grass – get as low as you can possibly go and even exaggerate further to go lower.  
    2. Touch the Bar to your Chest when you bench press.  Go all the way down and all the way up.  Count 1, 2 down and 1, 2 up.
    3. When you do pull ups or chin ups, take your arms all of the way down and lift yourself all the way up.  Do this without kipping (kicking).  
      1. This isn’t to say kipping pull ups aren’t effective, but save them for cross-fit workouts.
  2. Lift as heavy as your form will allow.  For major muscles this means you can only do around 5 reps during each set, for minor muscles its maxing out around 10.  
  3. Ego is not your amigo – don’t lift anything that feels like it’s going to hurt you.  You’re not impressing anyone at the gym, you are doing this for yourself.  
  4. Finish with 20 minutes of cardio.

Here is my 5 day Routine:

Workout 1: Push Day Chest – 3 sets each | Warm up is not a set

  • Bench Press w/ Warm Up
  • Incline Bench Press
  • Dumbbell Bench Press
  • Triceps Pushdown
  • CARDIO – Walk Backwards on a treadmill – 20 min

Workout 2: Pull and Calves (Back Day) – 3 sets each | Warm up is not a set

  • Barbell Deadlift (Do Warmup)
  • One Arm Dumbbell Rows
  • Pull Up
  • Calf Leg press – Single Leg
  • CARDIO – Stairs

Workout 3: Upper Body and Core (Shoulders) – 3 sets each | Warm up is not a set

  • Exercises: Seated Dumbbell Press (Warmup)
  • Dumbbell Side Lateral Raise
  • Dumbbell Rear Lateral Raise (Bent Over)
  • Weighted Sit Ups
  • CARDIO – Max incline on treadmill

Workout 4: Legs – 3 sets each | Warm up is not a set

  • Barbell Squat (Ass to Grass) w/ warm up
  • Dumbbell Lunge (full extend)
  • Leg Curl (Lying or Seated)
  • Leg Press Calf Push (Full extend)
  • CARDIO – SPRINTS

Workout 5: Upper body and Core (Arm Day) – 3 sets each up to 10 reps

  • Close Grip Bench Press 
  • EZ Bar Curl
  • Dumbbell Hammer Curl
  • Planks (around the world)
  • CARDIO – Proper Run form running / jogging

Now that you have a guide, you can mix and match these exercises in for your different muscles.  However, remember, there is no replacing Squats, Deadlift or Bench Press on their days.  Everything else, have fun with.

Chest

  • Barbell Bench Press (incline and flat)
  • Dumbbell Bench Press (incline and flat)
  • Cable Flys
  • Dip
  • Weighted Push ups on handles

Shoulders

  • Overhead press (Seated or Standing)
  • Military Press (Seated or Standing)
  • Dumbbell press (Seated or Standing)
  • Arnold Dumbbell Press
  • Dumbbell Front Raise
  • Dumbbell Side Lateral Raise
  • Dumbbell rear lateral Raise (Bent over or Seated)
  • Barbell Rear Delt Row

Back

  • Barbell Deadlift
  • Barbell Row
  • One-Arm Dumbbell Row
  • Pull Ups (Full Extensions)
  • Chin Ups (Full Extensions)
  • T-Bar Row
  • Lat Pull Downs (Wide Grip or Narrow)
  • Seated Cable Row (Wide Grip or Narrow)

Biceps (It’s a show muscle!)

Barbell Curl

  • EZ Barl Curl
  • Alternating Dumbbell Curl
  • Dumbbell Hammer Curl
  • Chin Up

Triceps (The working muscle that does the damn thing!)

Close Grip Bench Press

  • Seated Triceps Press
  • Dips
  • Lying Tricep Extensions (Skull Crushers) Be careful!
  • Tricep Push Downs

Core (Remember – Abs are made in the kitchen, but assisted in gym!)

Captain’s chair Leg Raise

  • Hanging Leg Raise
  • Lying Leg Raise
  • Crunch
  • Cable Crunch
  • Weighted Sit Ups (on floor or on decline bench)
  • Plank
  • Abdominal Roller

Legs (Don’t skip leg day – it’s your success creator)

Barbell Squat (Ass to Grass)

  • Barbell Front Squat (Ass to Grass)
  • Hack Squat on a sled
  • Leg Press
  • Lunges (Full Extensions, walking, in place, forward or backwards)
  • Romanian Deadlift (Barbell or Dumbbell)
  • Leg Curl (Lying or seated)
  • Standing or Seated Calf Raise 
  • Leg Press Calf Raise

There you have it.  Now get off your butt and get to the gym.  It’s on you to take care of you, don’t forget it!