What does it mean to want to be a good man? For me, it’s about developing the characteristics I’d admire in others.
It’s being a good father. I want to raise my son to be a good man. I want to stay in shape so I can chase him, and one day his children, around the house. I want to do the same for us future siblings. I want to be healthy.
It’s about being interesting to others and being able to strike up a conversation in any setting. I want to be connected to interesting people who challenge and encourage me. I want to feel like I’m ahead of the curve.
It’s about being proud of the way that you look. I want to have a style, I want it to be timeless and I want people to think that I care. I want to set a tone.
It’s about being a good partner. I want to be a good husband. I want to be a good partner in business. I want to be a good teammate. I want to have quality relationships in my life.
It’s about being creative. I want to pursue and create ideas. I want to turn nothing into something and have that something create an impact, be it with one or be it with many.
I want to be known as someone who is reliable. I want to be a trusted person. I want my words to be taken as an authority. I want to be known as a responsible man.
There are Principals for being a Grown Man
- Being a grown man takes consistent effort
- A grown man takes responsibility for his actions
- A grown man must know his worth
- A grown man must have the courage to confront challenging situations
- A grown man must be honest to himself and others
- A grown man is tenacious
- A grown man lives by a set of standards and principles
There are Timeless Guiding Rules for Grown Men
- Control your controllable (focus on what you can control)
- Your response to anything and everything is up to you
- Remember that you will die – live like it
- Time is the only asset you will never get back
- Invest in those around you. (You are who you surround yourself with.)
- You are the culmination of your habits
- Don’t exaggerate or imagine unknown outcomes or anticipate the unknown
- See the good in people
- Listen more than you speak
- Don’t complain, take action
- Be empathetic
- Ask questions and learn, from everyone
- Create your definition of success and pursue it
- Create your success
- Don’t allow yourself be pressured to a majority
- Be Kind
- Don’t be judging of others
- Study what other successful people have done – it’s been done before, at great scale
- Document (Journal)
- Be prepared for when things will not be good
- Don’t take things personal, even when it is delivered as such
- Be gracious in and learn from victory
- Don’t carry defeat, learn from it and move on
Being a Grown Man is Complicated and We Need to Help Ourselves as Men to Make it Less So
My Goal in this blow is to provide guidance, based on my experience and the experience of others on how to be a Grown man.
Together, we can become better fathers. Together, we can become better partners. Together we can become better Men.
How To Be A Grown Man 